The last hurdle

I am 39 weeks pregnant tomorrow, so within 3 weeks we should have a whole new bundle of joy with us. As previously mentioned I am excited and petrified at the same time. Although I think the strongest feeling I have is one of curiosity. Continue reading

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Pregnant summer days

Summer seems to be spread over 6 months of the year at the moment with a monsoon season in between. May, June, September and now October (!!) are the months to enjoy whilst we should be hibernating in July and August. Who is still trying to convince themselves that global warming is a myth? Continue reading

My maternity wardrobe

I have been lucky enough to receive some Mamas and Papas maternity clothes to review. In my ever expanding state these have been very welcome. What I love about maternity clothes is that they let me show off my normally worst feature, my stomach, and I can poke it out to my hearts content. Continue reading

Sleep oh precious sleep

I miss my university days when I couldn’t be bothered to go to morning lectures and instead spent the best part of the day in bed asleep. Oh for the days I could easily sleep until 1pm without even stirring beforehand. Nowadays a lie in is anytime past 7am and even if I can sleep without getting up for the Boy, I inevitably wake at 7am wide awake wondering who on earth is attending to his calls.

And as if things weren’t sleep deprived enough, pregnancy has decided to have its go and rob me of some more. I can cope with the general uncomfortableness of having a little being attached to my front but what I cannot understand is why my body insists on waking me from a deep slumber with agonising cramp? To make things worse when I shake the Man and plead with him to “push my leg, my leg” he stirs in slow motion and huffs at me for disturbing his sleep – I tell you, we had words.

Why is it that turning over in bed during pregnancy becomes a three stage process for which you need to be conscious to perform it – 1) turn onto your back taking bump with your hands as you go; 2) heave your legs over to one side one at a time and; 3) turn bump onto side ensuring it is not squashed by the rest of you. I can only imagine that mother nature knows we are going to be sleep deprived once Poppy arrives and is therefore teaching us to survive such conditions, forgetting I already have an unreliable toddler to do that for her.

To end on a positive note, my sleep has been vastly improved since delivery of my Theraline maternity pillow. Its like a large, oddly shaped sausage at about 6 foot long and fits perfectly between my legs. It takes the pressure off the bump whilst also leaving enough for me to cuddle as a replacement husband (he likes to cuddle for 2 minutes then throws me off as he is “too hot” before scooting over to his own side). It comes with a really pretty removable cover which is a very nice material and doesn’t get too hot or stuffy in bed, this is great as body temperature regulation in pregnancy is non-existant! The cover is antiallergenic, warm, breathable and can be washed at 140° – not so important now I am using it as a maternity pillow but when Poppy is born and I use it as nursing pillow this will be really useful, especially if Poppy regurgitates as much of my precious milk as the Boy did!

The filling is microbeads which mould really well to your body although the pillow does occasionally need reshuffling to ensure the beads are in the right place but its very easy to do. I use it in lots of different positions, sometimes putting it under my back if I lie on it for a bit and need some extra support. I love the versatility of this pillow. I got a really bad back when pregnant with the Boy but I didn’t have a maternity pillow then so I hope the Theraline maternity pillow will reduce my bad back pain this time, its certainly improving my sleep.

I cannot recommend this pillow enough for pregnant women or even non-pregnant people with a bad back, it is comfortable, versatile and moulds well to support problem areas. It isn’t cheap at £45 (including cover) but I think it is well worth it.

I was not paid for this review but was provided with the product free of charge. All opinions are my own and have not been influenced in any way.

 

20 week scan

The Man and I went to the hospital on Monday morning for my 20 week scan (I was actually 21+3 but we had missed it at 20 weeks as we were on holiday), we were both fairly relaxed as I had been feeling Poppy kick for a couple of weeks so we knew it was definitely there but of course there was a little worry that everything wouldn’t be perfect. The sonographer said the usual “I will scan you first and take a look and then let you see” during which time your heart beats like a drum and you think you’ve imagined every movement, but luckily this only lasted for about 10 seconds and we quickly saw our babys heart beating like a drum on the screen. It was awesome.

Apparently it has arms, legs, hands, feet, a heart with 4 chambers with blood going in and out, a head with a brain, no cleft lip, kidneys and thanks to a close up of its face we even know it has a tongue! Poppy is alive and well and as far as they can tell to date, perfectly formed. I decided I want a surprise version so we didn’t find out the sex, the Man wanted to find out but readily agreed to my decision when I glared at him with evil pregnancy hormoned eyes. I cannot wait to find out, but for now I am enjoying guessing using the old wives tales.

It was a lovely time for us and we came away with big grin and excitement at what the future holds. So here Poppy is (its the head and chest in case you can’t figure it out!)

 

Poppy at 21+3

Pregnancy Etiquette Guide

Talking with some lovely ladies on Twitter today got me thinking about how discussing pregnancy is a political and emotional minefield but of course you don’t realise this until you have actually been pregnant and had to deal with the seemingly innocent comments which incur a new kind of wrath within thanks to a barrage of sometimes irrational hormones.

So for every man out there and ladies who have never been or are not yet pregnant I give you your guide to Pregnancy Etiquette:

DON’T

  • comment on bump size, for example please do not say “its not very big is it” or “wow you’re big already” or “are you sure there is only one in there” – this kind of comment will leave the mother to be fretting about her precious unborn child not growing properly or being so huge she will be torn to pieces on its exit.
  • give any negative reaction to finding out the sex of the Baby – it cannot be changed and despite having half a dozen boys at home it does not mean that another one is a disappointment. Think about it this way when you say “its a shame you’re having another boy/girl” said mother to be will be mortally offended as you are basically saying “oh you don’t want another one like the one you’ve already got” or if they did actually want to branch out of pink/blue clothing you are reminding them that they can’t.
  • compare bump size with other pregnant ladies you know – we all grow differently and we do not want to hear about your sodding friend who hasn’t put on any weight and has a “neat little bump”.
  • touch the bump, why on earth do people think this is ok? If someone touched you on your body you would have the right to sue for sexual harassment. It is not a touchy feely free for all. A lot of pregnant women don’t mind the bump being touched but for gods sake ask first please.
  • make assumptions for us, this may be an area where we use pregnancy to our advantage, particularly when it comes to heavy lifting and cleaning out pets but do not assume a pregnant women is handicapped in anyway because we are still the same woman we were before we were pregnant. Losing the ability to eat and drink and do whatever you want is very frustrating. So rather than miss us out when you pour wine or dish out pate ask nicely “would you like some”.
  • upon finding out the sex do not ask “does that mean you will go for another after this one” because this one of the same sex is just a blip and we surely need to rectify the mistake with another one. Insulting to say the least.
  • try to think of more interesting questions than “when’s it due” and “do you know what you’re having”, or at least don’t ask them first – we hear them a hundred times a day.
  • regale first time mothers with horrific birth stories or educate them on perineal massage and episiotomys, they will learn in their own good time.
DO’S
  • give up your seat on public transport / park bench / couch.
  • offer a back rub although this is probably best reserved for close friends / family.
  • expand your horizons when entertaining and buy nice non-alcoholic drinks, I’m not talking about water, squash and coke but sparkling grape, elderflower, non-alcoholic lager.
  • congratulate them when they announce the sex of the baby (see above)
Many thanks go to @mummylimited, @snafflesmummy, @tmntanning@VannaBeAViking, @JordanFleet, @Kellyfairy, @icod and @LisaGCreates for their contributions to this piece.
Please comment with any of your biggest Pregnancy Faux Pas I have forgotten.